We are back for a mini-episode today. So if you are just tuning in, or if you’ve been following along, I have decided to curate and create a 30-day content challenge for myself. And that means that for the next 30 days, I will be creating and recording podcast episodes about business and different things that are popping up with my coaching clients and my life. And I will be putting more real style content, REAL and REEL content on Instagram, because content is the lifeblood of our business because it allows people to connect with us and to connect with our brands.
So today’s conversation is inspired by a conversation that I had yesterday with a coaching client. So I know a lot of my listeners are women who are entrepreneurs or who are wanting to or considering moving into the entrepreneurial space and something that happens to us as women as we are in the build and the growth phase of a business is that we really get into our masculine energy. And when we are in that masculine energy, we are usually creating systems and structures and strategies. We are grinding and we are hustling and you know, grind and hustle are such dirty, dirty words in the spiritual mindful entrepreneurial community. But I am such a believer that we have seasons and when you are building or growing or scaling or pivoting a business, you have to work your butts off to get that business to be successful and to get it to be profitable and to allow it to be sustainable. So that in the future you are not grinding and hustling so hard. And I was having a conversation with someone who is married to her business partner. And at this point, they are feeling like they are business partners and they are doing business so well together. but they are struggling as partners because all the attention and energy and effort is in the business and not as much energy and effort and attention are going to the marriage and the relationship. And so today I want to talk about as women, how do we shift and pivot and flow between that masculine energy during seasons of growth, into our feminine energy. We have the ability to tap into our masculine and feminine energy at any second, any given moment, and it is something that I have really worked on. The art of moving between the two. And it can be a struggle. If I’m being honest, it can be a struggle. But there are different embodying techniques that I use to help me step into my feminine, especially when I am dating and having intimacy and romance with a man in my life. So I am very strategic, and analytical. I’m an attorney for God’s sake, I have literally formed and trained my brain to be this very masculine type of human. I also just naturally tend to have a lot of masculine characteristics. I’m a leader, I’m a Virgo, I’m type A, I like to get shit done. And this serves me really well in my business, but I’ve had to learn in romantic partnerships, the shift into the feminine. So I’m going to share with you guys a couple of things that I do that helped me feel really feminine, especially in a romantic relationship. I also want to say this, who we are as women, as bosses, as business owners as entrepreneurs, is fucking amazing. We get to step into our masculine into our feminine whenever we want. And as I’m talking about shifting into your feminine, I don’t want you to feel like the masculine side of you should be demonized because that part of you is beautiful and should be celebrated. And the reason why I’m saying this in the way I’m saying it is because I have felt so many times in my life, that that part of myself, that strong, assertive, dominant part of myself that gets things done, has been frowned upon by different men in my life, both in romantic relationships when I was in practice, as an attorney, the thing that made the things that make me great in life, the strength that I possess, has often been criticized by men. And it’s been criticized by men that are “evolved”, “spiritual”, I’m saying quote, unquote, because it’s such fucking bullshit. I want your strength and your strategy and those parts of yourself that maybe are typically considered masculine to be fucking celebrated and honored, because they are a beautiful part of you, and they allow you to show up and just serve in a fucking boss ass way.
With that said, there is also so much beauty in our feminine energy and being able to step into that being able to receive being able to have someone care and cherish us in a way that we can receive from masculine energy. So a couple of different ways that I can shift into my feminine are: one, meditation, and grounding myself. So meditation is a really big thing for me lately, when I’m meditating, I’m actually using a little bit of plant medicine non-psychedelic plant medicine called Hapé. It is also called Rapé. You can Google it. Sometimes it’s called shamanic snuff Hapé is a tobacco that’s really, really finely ground, and you snort it with a little applicator called, I think you say it Caripé. But I might be wrong. I’m just guessing at the pronunciation of it. And what that does is, when you snorted on the right side of your body, you feel that whole side of your body ground down into the earth, and then you do it on the other side. And for me, it makes me really present in my body. So Hapé is something with meditation that really helped me to check-in and tune into myself as a woman. I love different creative artistic outlets that helped me get into my feminine. I am a musician by nature, I grew up a classically trained musician. So listening while I don’t have a piano and don’t have the ability to sit and play, listening to music, and then moving with the music, moving with the beat, music is so powerful for me. And it just helps me to move my hips and move my body and connect into being a woman and being connected to my feminine energy. So music and movement are so so so big for me.
Another thing that really connects me to my femininity is connecting to my sensuality and to connect into my sexuality. So I am a huge proponent of self-pleasure it ebbs and flows, how often I self-pleasure. Lately, I’ve been in a really creative space and I feel like a lot of my sexual energy has been going into the projects that I’m creating and the projects that I’m birthing, but self-pleasure and it doesn’t have to be self-pleasuring just masturbation to the point of orgasm. It can literally be touching my body. Like how often do you take time to like hug yourself touch yourself up like caressing your body, appreciate what you are honoring your Yoni do these different things that are sensual and allow you to tap into and really feel your body as a woman. That’s another thing that is so hugely helping me tap into my feminine. If you know what I look like, I am a pretty girly girl. And I love that about myself. I love dressing up. I love putting on makeup, jewelry, lipstick, I’m classically always wearing a bright lip and a giant pair of hoops and I have big curly hair like being in that feels so beautiful and so feminine for me. So for you, how can you show up and adorn yourself in a way that feels aligned and makes you feel really feminine, sensual, and sexy. Another thing that I’ve loved that really allows me to feel sensual and sexual, especially if I’m entering into like, an intimate moment with a partner. I love lingerie. I love it. I think it’s fucking amazing. I put it on, I feel like a boss like, you know, that’s another thing that I use that when I put it on, I feel amazing about myself. So think about a question I want you to think about is what are the things that when you do them, experience them, tap into them that you feel like just that strong, fiery, feminine energy coming out of you. Those are the things that worked for me, so I wanted to share them with you guys. And hopefully, it resonates with you. I’m sure some of the things you guys are familiar with. Maybe other things you aren’t but give it a try and let me know what you think if you tried something new, shoot me a DM, let me know I’d love to know if this was helpful for you guys. So yes. That’s all I got for you today, tapping into your feminine when you are really in the masculine. Honor both parts of yourself, honor your beautiful femininity, and honor that fiery masculinity that comes out in different parts of your life and never allow anyone to dim that part of you. A realization I had recently was that I always feel like I have always traditionally felt like that part of myself needs to be dimmed in order for me to find a partner, right? And what I realized lately with one of my practitioners that I’ve been working with is that I don’t need to dim that. I just have to call in and connect with a man who sees that and loves that and has the energetic capacity to hold the container of all that is me. So if you’re somebody like me who you’re strong and you’re fierce and you embody a lot of masculine energy, and you’re seeking a partner in this world, that’s what I’m calling in. So anyway, with that I love you guys. I hope you have a beautiful day and I will talk to you tomorrow on the podcast.
Regina Lawrence Esq. is a former trial attorney and law school professor turned soulful business & life strategist. She has found that so many entrepreneurs have these brilliant ideas and dreams but don’t know how to take the dream and create a system or structure to make that dream & idea profitable. That is where Regina comes in. With discipline, consistency, systems & structure, we can’t help but create profit & fulfillment from our soul-driven business ideas.
Regina’s approach to coaching marries her background in legal analysis, spirituality, mindset coaching, holistic nutrition, and neuroscience to create an experience that will assist you in getting into alignment, get clear on what you are here to do and what steps and systems to implement to make that dream a profitable reality.
You can find Regina on Instagram @reginaalawrence.