Let’s chat about boundaries in your business. When you are a new business owner, a new coach, and you are launching your business. There is a lot of effort and a lot of energy that goes into the creation of a business. Any type of business you’re creating will take a lot of effort and energy. Anybody who tells you that it does not, they are wrong. Because I have done a lot of things in my life, I went to law school, I was a lawyer, I was a professor. Becoming an entrepreneur is something that will stretch you so much as a human being.  One of the things that has helped me so much in the creation and launch of my business and which has helped me gain so much success and so much momentum in a relatively short period of time for a business owner has been creating some fierce boundaries around myself, my time, my relationships and my business and implementing them. Before we start to think about the boundaries in our business, I want you to think about:

“Why is this business important to me?”. “Why did I start this business? Why did I create it? What is the vision behind my business? What’s the dream? What is the full intention in creating the business?”

The reason why I want you to start with the “Why” in your business is that, if we are not anchored in the “Why “and the intention of the endeavor, then it’s hard to determine the boundaries that we’re creating. It’s unclear what is important. We have to get very clear and intentional about the “Why” behind the business. And it can’t just be a surface-level reason, it has to be that deep, soulful, connected reason as to why you are creating the business you are creating, or have created it and why you are bringing it to the planet at this time. Once you’re clear about that, there are three ways that I teach and talk about boundaries.

 The first way, the first thing to think about is creating “the” boundaries. In starting my business, I had to create a lot of boundaries around time, not just time in my day, but the time I would spend with people, the time I would go out and socialize, the time I would travel, I spent a whole year not traveling. COVID helped with that. But my intention was not to be traveling anyway in my first year of business unless it was for something business-related. You have to get clear about what is the boundary that I am seeking to put in place. The boundary around my time was huge. I have really big boundaries around my energy, who gets my energy, and who doesn’t get my energy, what in my business gets my energy, and what needs to be farmed out to someone else. We only have so much energy in a day. And so, we have to preserve what we can and use it in the best and most efficient way possible.

First, we have to create the boundaries.

The next part is we have to communicate the boundaries to people around us.

Finally, committing to the boundary.

Oftentimes we have to communicate our boundaries to friends and loved ones because they are used to a former version of us. Maybe they’re used to us not being an entrepreneur, maybe they’re used to us in a different business. And so now as we step into this next version of ourselves into this next version of our businesses, into the creation of a business into a new career, we have to reintroduce ourselves to these people, and reintroduce boundaries to these people or introduce new boundaries to these people. If you are deciding to have boundaries around time, maybe you’re somebody like me who you have had a strict “I will not be traveling for this period of time”, you have to tell people, listen, I’m in a really big push season in my business. And I’m not able to travel right now. Maybe it’s around social events, maybe you’re getting invited to a lot of things on the weekends, and you have decided that you are not socializing for a while, you then have to communicate that to people and let them know that that is your boundary.

The final thing is I think the hardest of the three steps in the creation of boundaries, it’s committing to the boundary. So once you know what it is, and you know what it’s rooted in, and you’ve communicated that boundary, you have to commit to the boundary for a couple of different reasons. One, if the thing that you’re doing is so important that you want to create boundaries around it, then a commitment to your boundary is a commitment to yourself. It’s a commitment to your dreams, it’s a commitment to your vision. As we are creating these new boundaries, and we’re communicating them to the people in our lives, if we’re not actively committing to the boundary, we’re telling them that our word is no that we didn’t mean what we said, when we are communicating boundaries to people. We have to sort of retrain the people in our life as to how to interact with us, especially during these seasons of creating a business growing a business launching a business, right? So the commitment piece can often be the part that we want to shy away from but the commitment to anything in this business is where the change happens. So just think about that. Think about why you created this business. And then you’re going to create your boundaries. You’re going to communicate your boundaries, and you’re going to Commit to your boundaries.

I just got off of FaceTime with one of my best friends and we were talking about boundaries. I have created some intense boundaries in my life, to the point where my family has hated it, to the point where I’ve had to end romantic relationships, to the point where I’ve had friendships be lost because of it. And I know that might sound harsh, but I know what I’m on this planet to do. And I know the type of life I want to live. The boundaries have helped me so much on my soul journey on my business journey through this life.

I hope this helps, guys. If you have any questions about boundaries, you want to talk about them. You want me to talk more about the different nuances of boundaries. Slide into my DMS on Instagram @reginaalawrence.  

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Regina Lawrence Esq. is a former trial attorney and law school professor turned soulful business & life strategist. She has found that so many entrepreneurs have these brilliant ideas and dreams but don’t know how to take the dream and create a system or structure to make that dream & idea profitable.  That is where Regina comes in.  With discipline, consistency, systems & structure, we can’t help but create profit & fulfillment from our soul-driven business ideas.

Regina’s approach to coaching marries her background in legal analysis, spirituality, mindset coaching, holistic nutrition, and neuroscience to create an experience that will assist you to get into alignment, get clear on what you are here to do and what steps and systems to implement to make that dream a profitable reality.

You can find Regina on Instagram @reginaalawrence