I love creating community
I love fostering community
I love being a part of communities.
I love people.
I learned at a very young age that I can’t really do my life alone.
Sure part of that is because I tend to be more extroverted and get a lot of inspiration and energy from being with other people.
But it’s also because we were created to be communal people.
To create, to nurture & to grow together for the betterment of ourselves, the world & society.
I actually wrote a blog post on how to create community online & in person. Click here to read it.
The focus of today’s blog is about how after we build, cultivate & foster a community, how do we collaborate with one another so that we can help each other grow.
I used to be someone who was afraid to ask for help.
I felt like to ask for help was me being a burden.
I also wanted to always look like I had everything figured out all the time.
You know… Type A, perfectionist, wanting everything to look perfect all the time kind fo woman.
And I was able to get through life like that for the most part.
That is until I started my own business.
At least earlier in life, when I was a lawyer, I paid a school to teach me how to do what I wanted to do.
And then when I was in practice as a lawyer, I had a boss who was invested in me knowing how to do things.
So there was a built in system for me to have help when I needed it.
When I started my own business, I learned very quickly that I could not do this alone.
I had no idea what I was doing.
I just knew in my soul that I was called to create the business I have created.
Throughout my life, I always some sort of community in the way of friendships.
I always had girls who I supported who supported me.
My ride or dies.
When I started my business, I realized something huge for me (especially in coming from Corporate America).
Now that I owned my own business, I got to choose who I did business with.
And I got to do business with people who were friends,.
People I admired
People I genuinely loved, respected and wanted to work with.
If you have ever worked in a corporate career, you know that you don’t get to choose who you do business with.
You are often at the mercy of your clients and whoever your boss hires to be your colleagues.
I will say I was so lucky in the women I got to work with over the years. They were the people who kept me sane and drank all the happy hour drinks with me.
But now in owning my own business, I got to do business with epic humans that I chose.
And because I was doing business with friends & people I connect with, it made collaboration and asking for help.
One of my biggest pieces of advice is that you cannot ask for help unless you are actively offering assistance and contributing back 10 fold. Especially when you are getting started.
Always start with the question: “How can you serve my community first?”
Then ask them if they can help you.
The more you give in your business.
To your community.
To your clients.
The more you can ask.
So How Do You Actually Have The Conversation
You have the conversation by having the conversation.
Meaning, you ask questions like the following:
Start to think about the follow:
Do you have a platform that you can offer to someone that would be beneficial to them and their business?
Do you have a podcast you can feature them on?
Do you have a blog you can feature them on?
Do you have a facebook or membership community you can share them with?
Start to think about what you can offer them and how you can serve them before you ask for them to serve you… always.
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